When stuck in the backup phase, disconnecting MIGHT be OK...or it might not. But, at that phase, definitely safer than disconnecting while the OS upload is in progress. It may also be that it's actually proceeding, but will just take a long time due to the size of that database...you may well need to be very patient.
Occam's Razor nearly always applies when troubleshooting technology issues!
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